The first month.

So in a few days, I'll have been on the dating site for a month now, and so far, I'm really enjoying it. I've managed to meet some awesome people and make some new friends! (Which, considering I know no one in Chester, It definitely became a bit of a sanity saver!)

I love that the site is free to use, though for some extra's you have to pay. Such as, being able to browse on people's profiles invisibly. The site tells you when someone views your profile and who it is, which I hate. Because now whenever someone views my profile and doesn't message me, I'm like 'Hey! What's wrong with me?!' ;) Haha, I'm joking but for people who get a lot of views and very little messages, it could be a bit disheartening! I feel bad viewing someones profile, especially someone's who has messaged me and not messaging back... I've found myself messaging them back so I don't feel guilty!
Because, if you message someone, they view your profile and don't message you back, you know you've just been full blown rejected... at least if you don't see them viewing your profile, you can at least pretend they've just come online and read your message.... 3 weeks... 4 weeks later!

This one is a flaw in me rather than the site, but for the first few days when it was all awesome and exciting and I was finally socialising with people in the outside world, I was replying to all my messages and checking up on all my notifications. But I do this thing that I do with all these kind of sites, I get tired of my phone blowing up with notifications and having the same, small talk conversations of 'hi, how are you?' and then going into what you're doing with yourself nowadays. I got a bit sick of telling my life story over and over again. So I kept saying to myself that I'll check them later... before I knew it, it was a week later. Rubbish Rebbie! From my previous research into similar sites, I do know that new profiles do get put on display to other users more, so they get more messages and therefore continue using the site, which is a great method... But I, personally get a little bored with constant notifications and I do have a habit of neglecting my account. :(.

The thing I love most about the site, is definitely the people on it. I love reading the profiles of other users and seeing little quirks in their personality, and the messages that I've received where people have noticed things on my profile.
Two of the most popular point on my profile have to be these;

My love for dominoes is unreal, you get me a chicken pizza with a BBQ stuffed crust, I will be yours for life.

So many people laughed at me for this, and so many people actually remembered the advert, but I didn't know what it was. But after about 3 weeks of searching.... I found it!

Mushy Pea Advert << You tell me that isn't emotionally destroying. I just can't eat pea's anymore...

I'm still looking for the fork advert though!

I'm sorry there isn't much juicy gossip to spill during my first month. I'm saving the juicy-ness for my next post!
Oh and if you find the advert, link it to me via, Email, Facebook, or Twitter

Rebbie's dating site adventure...the first night.

Ok, so the curiosity got the better of me, and I signed up to a dating site... This post is pretty much going to be a running commentary of my thoughts while signing up... :)

The personality of OkCupid is amazing... The username Rebbie was taken... but look at their suggestions!

I almost went with 'Rebbie-o-matic' the sex machine, but... Ok, I totally regret with going for Rebbieinabox now. Rebbieasaurus would of been a good one, but I thought it was a little too scene kid...

But moving on to some of my details... I forget quite often I was born under the unfortunately named star sign... 

I decided to leave the second half of that question blank....

You have to be pretty kinky to answer with 'not possible' right? I couldn't imagine someone just sitting there like, yup, Noone can out-kink me! haha. You must have a filthy mind...

But to me, these questions are just getting better.....

'Depends on which race...' I can just imagine someone leant back in their computer chair, going through all the different types of race, checklisting in their head... I'm not sure if you guys are finding this as funny as I am...
So I thought it was time to check out some of the matches OkCupid found for me...
Putting my orientation as Bi-sexual, it came up with a couple of girls, and I found this little gem on a local girls profile...

She could of said ANYTHING else in the world, literally ANYTHING. is it just me, or is that the kind of thing people should be putting on their profiles... I suppose it is a dating site... you should get to know these things about a person...

Anyway, after 3 hours of trying to fix my profile etc. I'm tired... and seen as it's nearly 4am. I suppose I should get to sleep. But I want to hear your stories/experiences of dating websites, or even just share your opinion.

Join the discussion on Facebook, or Twitter or feel free to email me here :)
And we shall see in the morning, what lies in store for me online...

Memory lane can be quite a funny place.

Who remembers late last year/early this year when I made profile up on dating and 'fuck buddy' sites to do a whole load of research into them and into dating and sex lives themselves.

I received an email earlier this week asking if I still used LocalSlags.com ... I'd never even heard that site before but I knew instantly where he'd got this from.

A lot of sites out there that are there solely for people who sign up and find a 'intimate friend' all share details with each other and share the profiles on their website. So if you sign up to one, you're signed up to them all. I've had enquiries asking why I'm on sexyGILF when I'm on 20 years of age, and some site to do with cougars....

Why don't I take these profiles down? Because I can't. The admins on the site always figured out that I was on there purely to play about and do research for my blog and always cut off my account. Yet, they kept my profile details on all the sites. This is to make men believe that there are plenty of girls out there on this website looking for a quick shag, long term fool-around-er. So they sign up to the site and pay the monthly fee. Now, they do in the small print say that they share their information with other site, but who actually reads the small print on a website? :P

What a lot of people don't realise is that the same profiles are on these weird and not so wonderful sites, so if they sign up to more than one of them, they're paying for the same thing, and that they don't realise is when they sign up to a new site, paying their monthly fee, they actually already have a profile on there...
Yet some people are lucky enough to find what they are looking for, and are happy. However most people unfortunately, get left with nothing and fair few pennies emptied out of their pocket.

As for me, I am doomed to be on the internet forever, a cougar, GILF and local slag. Wonderful!

Here is a photo of how pleased I am over this.... =P

Being confident with identity.

I just read a blog post of a friend I used to be extremely close to before I came to Uni, (http://amy-dale.blogspot.com/) And one of her blog posts (Here goes nothing) talks about her identity as a person and how she see's herself.
Through-out life we all pick up different Labels/titles/identities such as Mother, Father, Boss, Employee, Wife, Husband etc, and they're all pretty standard yes? But sometimes we pick up more unique things within our identity which sometimes people find hard to accept. For example my friend Amy talks about how she feels there is a boy trapped within her body and that he is a part of her, and I really admire her courage to be able to tell people this part of her which is obviously very important to her identity, especially when it's something that not everyone finds themselves able to accept in a person. I'm not saying you should go and write a blog about all the unique things about you, but what I'm trying to say is that even though not everyone may be able to accept certain things about you. If they are things that are a part of you, mean a lot to you and make you happy, you shouldn't shy away from it.
A lot of people get depressed over hiding various parts of themselves and their lives because of what people may think about them, or that they've convinced themselves the people in their lives will leave and strangers will look at them in the street and say a load of crap. Sometimes unfortunately these things do happen, not everyone can accept things, or agree with how you feel etc. But if you're acting ashamed of yourself or a part of your life, you won't be happy. You have to embrace every part of you and be like 'This is me.'

As I said to my friend Amy, I wouldn't look her in any other way than the way I already see her. I see her as a great friend, someone I share many memories with etc. She's a lovely person, and someone that always has me in stitches about 90% of the time i'm with her (The other 10% I'm recovering from laughing at all the stupid things we do and say together!)

A lot of people may not feel the same as you, agree with you, or even accept it, but pretty much nearly everyone who cares about you will respect you and that whatever it is is a part of your life and a part of you!

My facebook and twitter is now linked at the side... if you hover over some random rectangle things on your right! :)
Or Email me at Shaneyxcakes@gmail.com

And don't forget to check out my friend Amy's blog! She's an awesome girl! :)

Are Adults safe on the internet?

Adults talk about how the internet isn't a safe place for children and teenagers, after hearing news reports/ stories with horror stories of kids who have met people on the internet and been murdered/sexually assaulted etc.. all very extreme stories. And we do well to warn people of the danger.

 It is something that plagues the mind of parents as their children being to talk to strangers in chat rooms/message boards and other websites, but are they practising what they preach or are they being just as unsafe as anyone else? So I did a little experiment to find out...

I signed up to f-buddy.co.uk for two days, which is a website for adults to meet online, and have sexual encounters with, whether it's just emails, phone calls, or meeting up in person and having a fling. Straight away I received messages from multiple people giving me their contact details and where they lived etc... Which got me to thinking, how many people on this website are willing to meet up with a person without knowing them?

I posed as a 21 year old girl called Charlotte using a fake picture and information, then, I posted a status on the website, which is viewable by males who had joined saying. 'Who wants to be a part of an experiment? message me?' To which I received 232 responses from people, all of different ages from 18 upwards, below is a graph of how many people replied from each age bracket.

Each of these people gave either one of 3 responses. They either;
Said yes straight away, and gave contact details (Phone numbers etc)
Said yes, while asking for details
Or just asked for details before agreeing.

Below is a graph showing the numbers between the different responses from the people who did respond.

The blue slice shows the amount of people who asked before agreeing, which in the situation is the safest option. However, my reply to everyone who did respond to me was
'Hi, thanks for getting back to me, before I send out any details about the experiment, can I just ask one question? Would you be willing to meet me in person?'
To which everyone replied 'Yes'
While giving out contact details, even addresses (Which I have deleted)

So what I'm trying to say is, through the power of sending two messages to complete strangers, 232 people agreed to meet me in person off the internet.
Considering how easy it was to fake a profile, lying about my appearance, name, age, location etc. People have been known to be murdered/sexually assaulted by people they meet off the internet, so 232 adults had put themselves at risk by agreeing to see me personally.

Luckily i'm a nice person! And wouldn't assault any of these people if I had met them.
So if you do decide to meet up with anyone on the internet, be VERY careful. You can never know for sure that the complete stranger you're talking to is safe. I hope this experiment opens your eyes just a little bit.


*I understand this experiment was open only to males, I am currently looking for a similar site that is free for men to join to conduct the same experiment on females, as I'm sure I would get a different response,
Females are much more cautious than men when it comes to this type of thing, however some females do also fall into the same trap.
I didn't feel comfortable giving the website my bank details, also being a student, I am rather quite skint atm!*
Also I apologise for the small font on the graphs, it was the largest I could make it! :(

New Year, New goals...

How many of you believe in new year resolutions? Personally I don't, whenever I did have one, I kept it up for about 2 weeks... Does anyone keep their new years resolutions?

Just a thought to start the new year, What are your new years resolutions, and are you intending to keep them up for the full year?

As some of you may know, I conducted an experiment last week, I've been posing online as a girl named Charlotte on a few dating and 'other adult' websites, and within a few minutes I was asking them to meet me...
the response I got was amazing.

Especially considering the importance of internet safety and lectures about meeting people they only know online they throw upon kids, it was interesting to see how much they kept to that themselves....

Anyway, welcome to 2012  Here's a picture of a duck :D