So what to do when we are feeling pressured?
We get pressured into doing all kinds of silly things, you have the obvious, don't have sex until you're ready and don't get yourself into doing drugs just because you're friends are doing it, but you all know that stuff.
But what about with the less serious things? Is it always that easy to notice to when we're being put under pressure with the smaller things?
Pressure in everyday life
We put people under pressure every day without even realising it, and it started when we were really quite young, who remembers the days of when 'Awww, i'll be your best friend' was the biggest bribe anyone could offer to you?
We ask the littlest of things of people, and when they aren't wanting to do it, we do the whole 'pleeeeease' and 'go on', what we don't always realise is that we're adding pressure to our requests, sometimes we do, and sometimes it is just a habit we have. We put pressure onto everything, if we haven't seen a friend in a while, just by asking 'we haven't seen you in ages.' There's a little something inside that tells us we should probably go see that person at some point, even if it goes away almost instantly, or we don't actually want to see that person. We react to everything that gets said to us and we are influenced all the time.
We can never avoid being pressured into things, just like we can never fully not pressure people when asking something or saying something to them. It's a weird circle that comes with human nature.
I have a friend who always wants everything done her way, and her very forward personality always puts me under pressure. She involves herself in anything she wants, which don't get me wrong, i do love her, but sometimes she is a little forward and it does make me feel a little pressured to go along with her, even when i really don't want to.
But you should never put yourself in a petty situation that puts you under pressure, you need to know when there is 'unnecessary pressure' and pressure that you just have to face, and petty little everyday situations like the ones I’ve briefly mentioned, you should avoid, and just stand up and say, 'No i don't want to.' But there are situations we can never avoid, such as deadlines etc, and situations where we shouldn't avoid, even if it does put us under pressure, for example when you've put yourself in the wrong and need to sort things out with people. This is what you have to work out.
Pressure in conflicts
Too many people avoid a pressured situation after a conflict, and has anyone ever noticed it always been when they are in the wrong, or have no point to stand on?
In those situations when we are in the right, we don't run away from the conflict, we're always strong standing and ready to take whatever's coming because we know that we're going to come back at whatever gets thrown at us.
It takes a lot of courage to stand up to people who you've been in the wrong to, and apologising, admitting that you're wrong. Whereas most people lose their temper, or storm off, or even try to blame the people on the other side, but the most common ones are the lines 'You have no idea how I’m feeling,' or, 'You don't know what's going on in my life' to try and justify their side of things.
These situations will never go away, no matter how hard you try and avoid them, if you don't face up to it, and ignore it, you won't fix it.
It's all because of pressure, whether it's to do something we don't want to do, or a conflict etc. Pressure is everywhere. You just need to realise what situations are the ones you actually need fight head on, and which ones you should take yourself out of because they are unnecessary.
Too many people claim pressured situations as things that we need to remove ourselves out of, when in reality they're just being cowards.
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