I've chosen this email from a fair few advice questions I've received over the past couple of weeks, as it's a topic that I've found myself in plenty of times, and that I've helped friends with too!
Unfortunately she didn't give me much to go on, but it's a common thing for people to go through!
'I've recently been having feelings for a couple of a guys, both of which like me and have been involved with, one is a really great friend and the other, well typically I didn't know liked me until my other fling started, which is gutting because I had a massive crush on him for ages before all this... To be honest, I don't even know what I really want advice on... I just have no idea what I'm doing!'
- Crushes are weird things aren't they! From the sounds of it, the way you said one of these guys were a 'friend' means it's either swinging both ways... He is more of a friend than a potential boyfriend, or this guy can actually be a really good match for you! Because he can play both roles! But there's nothing wrong with liking more than one person at once, seeing them both at the same time is a little dodgy, as if they or other people find out, you could be in for a lot of crap heading your way! :/.
But you need to work out what you actually want, by the sounds of it, you're not in the right place for an actual relationship, just a little bit of fun until your hormones wear down a little bit! haha.
If you know one of these guys really REALLY likes you, maybe you should cool it off until you decide what you want, otherwise he may find out about the other and then you'll lose their respect and friendship.
It's always a difficult one, especially seen as you probably won't want to lose either of them, but, how long can you play this game for? I'm not judging though... I've been there myself and it can be quite tough. Just be honest about how you feel to them, or give yourself some space from them both and see who you miss the most?
What about the guy you had a crush on before, is it just a physical thing, or do you know them well enough to be able to see them as something more? You're right with it being typical timing though, it seems to happen way too often!
You just have to figure out who you want. Though do you want either of them that bad if you're willing to continue a relationship with the other? I can't tell you how you feel, I wish i could! Maybe you should talk to each of them and find out how they're feeling, and what they think is going on between them and you. But, right now I don't think you're in any position to make a decision yet, but you are in a position to potentially hurt two guys...
The best thing to do is talk to each of them and try and find out how you feel and tell them sweetheart. Though saying that, I never have the balls to tell anyone how I feel. It's scary right? Just focus on you for now and when you realise who you like more/what you want. Just be honest and do what makes you happy.
Hope it helps chick! and good luck!! :D
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