A little advice....

This is something i wrote in May... It was a little advice to my friends.

As I try and write my first new piece for my blog, i couldn't help but think of this... Let me know what you think.

I may not be perfect, but after all i'm only human. At times i cry, at times i piss you off, at times i take things too far, i misunderstand things, but if thats all you see in me, then you don't see anything at all. Do i choose not to fight because i'm weak? Or am i strong enough to believe that it's not the answer. I am a girl who holds a lot of faith, i believe in the people in my life, i believe they will see past the imperfections of my nature, i believe they will see how much they mean to me. We all mistakes, and no one is ever perfect. No one can ever agree 100% whether its a conflict of interest, conflict of humour, moral values or other people they share their lives with. I take my friends as they are, and i believe they will do the same for me. Respect is such a hard thing to come by, and one of the hardest things to maintain if you don't believe the values of the other person. But i wouldn't change you for the world. This world is such a hard place to keep happy, and you never will completely succeed in doing so. We mess up friendships and relationships because the fact that we care makes us scared, scared of getting hurt, scared of the unknown and whats going to happen next. Whether all your efforts will be worth it. It's because it's held so close in our hearts, we can only see our fears of losing it, and acting on those fears, only determines them more. So i'm sorry if i ever screw up...

We give in to things we know we shouldn't, even if you're aware of it or not. We give in to people's feelings, to what they want, what they say. Peer pressure never goes away, influence is everywhere, but not all of it's bad. Some people use it to create high morals for them to live by, and use it for their own benefit. People give in to influence because they think it's the safest option, to avoid conflict. Some people aren't aware of the influence in their life, they allow it to change how they feel, or what they believe. But ask yourself, what really makes you happy? Who are the people that make you feel special, and accept you for who you are.

Back home, i see friendships change all the time, how many people have you lost due to the influence of others? How many people do you know who have changed who they are, just to try and fit in, for attention etc. How many times have we talked about people behind their back, and not really meant what we've said? How many times have we faked an opinion to avoid conflict? I see so many status' on here talking about 'real friends' and 'so called friends'. Have you ever changed your opinion and feelings of someone because everyone else felt differently to you? Because think about it, those people were your in your life for a reason, they made you happy, and at times we forget that.

It's always hard when a close friend has some kind of relationship with someone who isn't fond of you, there will always be tension, and sometimes the conflict isn't civil or pretty. (I should know!) But if that friend of yours is worth keeping, then don't fight against it, if they really are a friend to you respect their other relationships with people. I'm sure its not easy on anyone to have two or more friends at each others throats. Respect goes along way, and friendship is based on loyalty and respect. I'm not saying everything will be fine if you do so, nothing is ever certain, we've all lost friends due to influence and bitching, but if you remain a good friend, then what the hell do they really have to bitch about? Don't change who you are, because someone will see you for who you are, and see the amazing person that you are. It's the people who you don't have to fight for, are the ones that are worth it. The one's who will stick by you through everything, and see and appreciate everything you do for them.

I wouldn't change a thing about my friends, i love them all for who they are, i respect every aspect of them and their life, even if it doesn't always agree with mine. They are amazing people who make my life what it is, they make me happy and i never forget that :). Being the nice person doesn't always work, falling into the habit of being selfish is so easy and we are all guilty for it, but i believe it only helps you see the people who are really worth your time, if people can see your loyalty as a friend and stand by you, surely it would all be worth it.