Friends/Partners/Enemies (Part1)

In my own personal life, I have a few dramas going on, however they are classic example of common conflicts that happen as new relationships and friendships starts and old ones end... They go in quite a funny order, i could order the dramas to the beginning, during and ending of relationships. However due to some of these dramas occurring presently. I really can't discuss some of them tonight.

Conflicts between friends and your partner. Always a tricky one if you find yourself caught up in the middle huh?
There's always going to be complications and you obviously can't make both sides happy. This particular situation I'm going to run through 2 blogs, One being the friend stuck in the middle, and one arguing both sides of conflict.

Everyone always wants their friends to get along with their partner. Makes life so much easier right? But not everyone can get along. And everyone believes you should live by the rules of choosing your friends over any guy/girl. But should that really be the rule?
Girlfriends and boyfriends come and go more than your friends do, but does that mean they should really be the ones who end up losing the tug of war between them and your friends?

I've been in a relationship where i couldn't get along with my boyfriends friends, and that personally upset me. And I never like to think i would of let a boyfriend choose me over his friends, but this situation changed my opinion somewhat.
It was always hard to be around his friends when i knew how they behaved with me, i always felt really uncomfortable. According to a lot of people who witnessed what was going on, the word they would describe what they did, was bullying.
Bullying as we all know, is never acceptable, and what happened in this situation is no exception. But for my boyfriend, it was a horrible situation to be in. As much as you don't want to take any particular side to a conflict between your friends and your partner, you are also the most likely person to be able to settle it all down.
Friends over boyfriends and girlfriends, is usually the most accepted way in friendship groups to go about things. So if the conflict becomes too overbearing.... do you follow this rule?
I personally believe that whole rule is utter crap.
Absolute bullshit.
Support who's in the right, and if neither party is in the right, give them both a backhand to the face and tell them to deal with it (Ok, maybe not a physical backhand, but verbally atleast :P)
Take my situation for example, if i didn't retaliate to what was going on, would it be right to choose the bullies over the partner just because it's the accepted rule?
I believe not, and putting it like this, makes it seem pretty obvious that it is the wrong thing to do, but its surprising how many people cave to their friends....
I don't think the rule should apply to conflicts. The rule works well in more petty situations, for example if someone is unbelievably whipped haha. But i believe you should analyse every conflict and go with who is in right, and stand up for what's right.
Don't be afraid to choose your partner in a conflict between them and your friends. It makes the world a much better place....

Agree?