So many messages from people asking why I hadn't updated any of you on what was going on in my OkCupid world... That's because nothing much had really been happening... except what I'm about to talk about towards the end...
I did the thing I knew I would do, and that is, struggle to find the time to answer to everyone's messages.. (I started to feel bad when I didn't reply)...
So I started slacking...
The annoying thing with OkCupid is that the site tells people on your profile how often you reply to your messages... so I'm one of these people now who reply 'Selectively' or even 'Very selectively' and if I'm honest, that makes me feel like a bitch. haha. If I could reply to all the messages all the time, I would. I love talking to people, however unfortunately.... I cant!! :(.
I was sat with my housemate, (Also on OkCupid... in fact, all 3 of my housemates are on there!) and on the quickmatch (Where rate randomly generated profiles) I got all 3 of them on my quick match within a few minutes! It was interesting to see their profiles, especially seen as two of them are together.
Although now, I have registered as an 'A-list' member, which means I get a few extra special magic powers on the site, such as, I can browse peoples profiles without them knowing I did... Finally, that was the one thing about the site that I hated...
And I can finally see, who said they liked me.... so if I find someone on that list that I find interesting... I already know they kinda atleast think the same about me. So yay!.
However there was one guy I was talking to, seemed normal, looked normal, weirdly looked very much like someone I had a fling with once... and I'm not saying he wasn't normal, he was. He just totally didn't look like the type of guy who would be into the stuff he was... He just looked like your average kid, very generic, (my old friend who he looked like was an absolute pussy, so I kinda assumed he would be a little softy too) so we were talking for a fair few weeks... he found my blog and asked my opinion on certain things like escorting etc... then obviously, escorting moved on to sexual desire and then he told me he was into really hardcore domination, and I froze. I'm not someone who likes to talk about their sexual desires, especially over the internet with someone I don't know... So I had spent the whole conversation being like 'erm.. I don't know, you?' Then he just threw me out of the water with this one. I was like daaaamn boy!
It kinda reminded me, not to judge a book by it's cover... everyone has their little kinks, and some people's can be VERY surprising!
One tip for those of you on dating websites etc. This may be a very obvious thing to watch out for, but if someone is straight away saying that 'oh your photo makes me want to do naughty things' 3 guesses what they're all about. I had someone do this to me yesterday. Though his username was something along the lines of 'thepartyanimal' so you really can't be surprised. And the same applies if they ask for your number straight away.
Why would I give my number to some stranger on the internet? That has only sent me 2 messages? Stay safe on the internet kids ! :)
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Showing posts with label fetish. Show all posts
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Wednesday, 16 October 2013
Monday, 22 July 2013
Webcam performers and our relationships
It's been a while since I've posted one of my sex related blogs, and I've had a few messages requesting for their return... (you massive perverts! haha.)
So my topic today is all about webcam performers, and whether we should kick up a fuss over finding our partners viewing their material...
As with everything at the end of the day, it all comes down to a matter of opinion, and the truth is, a lot of women think that webcam performers are 'sluts' and 'cheap'. Where with guys, it's a middle split, a lot more males feel slightly more positive towards the idea of webcam performers, especially female and couple performers! ....This is probably because they're the main audience for these type of shows! Though society today is becoming a lot more open when it comes to sex and sexuality. So... Should we accept webcam performers, or not?
I've had this conversation with many people, both males and females and I get asked whether it's acceptable to watch webcam performers/go to strip clubs etc, when they're in a relationship and their partner's at home.
A lot of people make the mistake of putting webcam performers in the same league as other sex workers, such as escorts and prostitutes, as in thinking they're just as morally wrong. This is not the case in the slightest, obviously for the main reason of, there's an actual physical experience between someone and a escort/prostitute, and it's actually classed as cheating! =p.
If you caught your partner watching a webcam performer, would you be annoyed? Is there a reason to be annoyed?
I've been asked this question a lot, at the end of the day, it does come down to whether it upsets you or not. Personally, I may be a little wounded by it, but at the end of the day, it's just a fantasy. If your partner is sat at the computer wanking over some randomer on the internet, who he doesn't have a relationship with outside of that, are they really doing anything wrong? It's just like them masturbating over a celebrity....
Obviously except for the fact our partner's are paying for them....
A lot of the girls do it for an income, that isn't to say they don't enjoy it... who doesn't enjoy masturbating! But that girl isn't going to be in love with my partner, that girl isn't going to take my partner away from me. All she's going to get from my partner, is a few quid over a wank on webcam... None of us like to think of our partners getting off sexually over other people. But at the end of the day, they're sat at home jacking off, not cheating on you and sticking it in a prostitute...
In my opinion, what's wrong with a little fantasy? But everyone is different, some people would be upset by it, and one thing about being in a relationship is that you have to know each others limits, what lines you can cross etc, like you do with things like banter. It's the same with things like this, if you know your partner would be upset if they found you in that situation, then you should probably steer away from that situation out of respect for your partner.
If you're unsure about the situation, and are curious to your partners opinion, you can bring up the topic without giving the game away. Talk about a stag/hen party-->>Strippers -->> other forms of sexual entertainment, or if you're online, mention a pop up about webcamming, (there's bloody enough of them!).
Or, to avoid all the hassle, hide in your cave and fap to your hearts content... =P
As always feel free to email me with any questions, comments, or advice, here: RebbieShaneOfficial@gmail.com
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So my topic today is all about webcam performers, and whether we should kick up a fuss over finding our partners viewing their material...
As with everything at the end of the day, it all comes down to a matter of opinion, and the truth is, a lot of women think that webcam performers are 'sluts' and 'cheap'. Where with guys, it's a middle split, a lot more males feel slightly more positive towards the idea of webcam performers, especially female and couple performers! ....This is probably because they're the main audience for these type of shows! Though society today is becoming a lot more open when it comes to sex and sexuality. So... Should we accept webcam performers, or not?
I've had this conversation with many people, both males and females and I get asked whether it's acceptable to watch webcam performers/go to strip clubs etc, when they're in a relationship and their partner's at home.
A lot of people make the mistake of putting webcam performers in the same league as other sex workers, such as escorts and prostitutes, as in thinking they're just as morally wrong. This is not the case in the slightest, obviously for the main reason of, there's an actual physical experience between someone and a escort/prostitute, and it's actually classed as cheating! =p.
If you caught your partner watching a webcam performer, would you be annoyed? Is there a reason to be annoyed?
I've been asked this question a lot, at the end of the day, it does come down to whether it upsets you or not. Personally, I may be a little wounded by it, but at the end of the day, it's just a fantasy. If your partner is sat at the computer wanking over some randomer on the internet, who he doesn't have a relationship with outside of that, are they really doing anything wrong? It's just like them masturbating over a celebrity....
Obviously except for the fact our partner's are paying for them....
A lot of the girls do it for an income, that isn't to say they don't enjoy it... who doesn't enjoy masturbating! But that girl isn't going to be in love with my partner, that girl isn't going to take my partner away from me. All she's going to get from my partner, is a few quid over a wank on webcam... None of us like to think of our partners getting off sexually over other people. But at the end of the day, they're sat at home jacking off, not cheating on you and sticking it in a prostitute...
In my opinion, what's wrong with a little fantasy? But everyone is different, some people would be upset by it, and one thing about being in a relationship is that you have to know each others limits, what lines you can cross etc, like you do with things like banter. It's the same with things like this, if you know your partner would be upset if they found you in that situation, then you should probably steer away from that situation out of respect for your partner.
If you're unsure about the situation, and are curious to your partners opinion, you can bring up the topic without giving the game away. Talk about a stag/hen party-->>Strippers -->> other forms of sexual entertainment, or if you're online, mention a pop up about webcamming, (there's bloody enough of them!).
Or, to avoid all the hassle, hide in your cave and fap to your hearts content... =P
As always feel free to email me with any questions, comments, or advice, here: RebbieShaneOfficial@gmail.com
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Monday, 16 January 2012
Fetish's in society?
Fetish's are often the victim of very strong opinions, either positive or negative.
Do you have a fetish?
Do you have a fetish?
Certain things/fetish's can make people feel uncomfortable, especially if displayed in public. However some people discard some of these fetish's as 'Disgusting' and 'Shouldn't be practised' But how should we look at fetish's?
I have been going undercover again finding out what people's fetish's are, they've ranged from something small and everyday like having their neck tickled, to more extreme such as wanting photographic evidence of me making 'ass stains' in my underwear.
Everyone has a limit of what is 'Too far' for them, but should these fetish's really be named as 'Disgusting,' 'Unnatural' Or 'Shouldn't be practised.' Fair enough some fetish's can very adventurous, and very out of the ordinary. But these are people's preferences, and are the most part done in the privacy of their own homes.
However, the outrage mainly comes from where it is plastered over the internet. Sometimes poorly placed adverts are found on the internet, where it can crop up to users who aren't interested in that particular fetish. Though mainly, online it's in it's own private websites where people who are interested in it can come together, a bit like dating websites!
But just because we're not into some of the more adventurous things? Should they really be condemned like they are? I'm not a fan of anything that involves my ass, or what comes out of it, but if people are into that kind of thing it's their business. When talking about it, i'll politely say that I'm not into that sort of thing.... I think it would be great if more people did the same.
I have been going undercover again finding out what people's fetish's are, they've ranged from something small and everyday like having their neck tickled, to more extreme such as wanting photographic evidence of me making 'ass stains' in my underwear.
Everyone has a limit of what is 'Too far' for them, but should these fetish's really be named as 'Disgusting,' 'Unnatural' Or 'Shouldn't be practised.' Fair enough some fetish's can very adventurous, and very out of the ordinary. But these are people's preferences, and are the most part done in the privacy of their own homes.
However, the outrage mainly comes from where it is plastered over the internet. Sometimes poorly placed adverts are found on the internet, where it can crop up to users who aren't interested in that particular fetish. Though mainly, online it's in it's own private websites where people who are interested in it can come together, a bit like dating websites!
But just because we're not into some of the more adventurous things? Should they really be condemned like they are? I'm not a fan of anything that involves my ass, or what comes out of it, but if people are into that kind of thing it's their business. When talking about it, i'll politely say that I'm not into that sort of thing.... I think it would be great if more people did the same.
I think bad stigma that people attach to fetish's, it's a little unfair, not only are you criticising a part of someone's life, you also pressure other people into thinking they're wrong in enjoying that particular thing.
I'm not a big fetish girl, I'm not amazingly adventurous when it comes to this type of thing, but should we really judge people?
What really is wrong with someone practising a fetish in the privacy of their own home? Or signing up to a related website?
It's very much like criticising vegetarian's for not eating meat because it's 'Unnatural' as we were originally meat eaters as well....
However some fetish's are banned/illegal.... Which fetish's do you think are wrongly condemned?
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I'm not a big fetish girl, I'm not amazingly adventurous when it comes to this type of thing, but should we really judge people?
What really is wrong with someone practising a fetish in the privacy of their own home? Or signing up to a related website?
It's very much like criticising vegetarian's for not eating meat because it's 'Unnatural' as we were originally meat eaters as well....
However some fetish's are banned/illegal.... Which fetish's do you think are wrongly condemned?
Facebook, twitter, email me :) Or even comment below :)
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