Monday, 9 January 2012

Patience my dear.

As many of you know, I've signed up to a couple of dating/etc websites, and during the last couple of months, I've been picking out things either in the conversations or in the behaviour of the people I've been talking to.
One of the things that aggravates me is the lack of patience some people have when it comes to people replying to them...

How long should we wait if someone hasn't replied to us? And how should we react if someone doesn't reply to us? If we should react at all?
Especially when we're talking to people online, it's perfectly possible that person has left their laptop or whatever for a few minutes to go and do something.
I find this type of thing especially rude when you're on sites where you inbox people rather than talk on instant chat, because you can't always tell if someone is still online or not.
So what reasoning do people have to be rude towards someone in this situation?

I have received a number of rude messages off people when I've not replied in a quick amount of time, EG;

'WHY THE F**K YOU EVEN ON THIS SITE IF YOU'RE NOT GOING TO REPLY TO PEOPLE'

'OMG well if you're just going to stop talking then at least tell me why!!!!!!!'

You have to admit it does make you look like a bit of a tool tbh! Should we really behave this way to people we don't know? Or to anyone in fact?

Another thing that can be shown through the impatience of people is desperation..
EG;
'Oh im sorry, have i said something to offend you? im sorry' (35mins ago)
'Are you still there? Im sorry, i really want to talk to you' (31mins ago)
'Ok, i'll assume you dont want to talk to me, :( :( :( plz '(26mins ago)

^^ Not the worst example I could show, but you get the idea.
One thing you need to remember when you're talking to people either online or over text etc, you don't always get an instant reply like you do when talking to someone face to face, so if someone doesn't reply straight away, chill out. If people are going to reply to you, then they will. If they don't want to, don't humiliate yourself by hassling people and making yourself seem possessive/angry or desperate

And most importantly, don't ruin your chances of meeting someone lovely by doing this! It's a big mistake people make.
These are your first impressions you're making towards people, you need to make sure it's a good one!

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6 comments:

  1. Am I that bad.....oh dear :((((((.

    lol, yup you're right Rebbie, it is hard and I go back to an earlier comment that with guys having to pay, and girls not, the pressure is on the guys to "score".

    Still I'm with you. I'm never rude - where does it get you - and I know that my message has to stand out somehow, which it may not do if the girl likes something different from me.

    I do message girls a few times normally but mainly to try to catch them when they're online. After that, I know its time to move on.

    Good posts keep them coming.

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  2. As a Professional individual who spends a lot of time away I find these "sites" you talk downward of very useful to meet like minded people. On a previous Blog you say you use a fake profile with fake pictures, Charlotte i believe it was. This maybe true but i have found that your very own profile separate to the fake is floating around out there! You seem very inept at giving your social stereotypical view of everybody's own relationships. I believe that you yourself are single, that you do not have a serious loving partner, so stop with your games If people want to meet in that way in those settings, let them, without your interfering blogs. You clearly have too much time or you cant get what you want. Its either or

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  3. I am actually in a relationship. I don't talk downwards of the sites, in fact I think they are a great way to meet people. I have said before that I do think they are a great for some people.

    I've met a lot of friends from these sites.

    But what annoys me is the way some people treat them.
    You clearly have the totally wrong idea about me and this blog.
    I am actually currently writing a post about how useful these sites can be, and how I have made friends on these types of sites.

    I'm never stereotypical about anything, I just talk about how 'Some' Relationships or 'Some' People can be.

    Please read into what I'm saying in detail before assuming anything. As most of what you have written here is false.

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  4. Oh but you really, really are ;) x

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