Have you ever felt you've settled for second best, or the 'safe option'? When you couldn't have the person you loved, or if you've been messed around by someone else, you found a person who would offer you everything the other person wouldn't?
A few of us have done this, believing that we do like that person, and to be honest we do like them. But what do we like... the person? Or what they're offering us?
Is it love and a relationship we're craving? Something safe we can rely on? Everyone wants different things, and it's not always the person we want to offering them. And we do become confused.
Sometimes this works out, and sometimes it doesn't. We can learn to love that person like we loved others in time, or we just get frustrated in our relationships and hurt the other person, either by leaving, or another way.
The only advice I could give to anyone going through this is, give yourself time to work out what you really want. If you know you don't lust for this person as much as you did for someone else, a crush or an ex, then maybe you need to give yourself some space to figure out if this is what you're going through and what you want in the long run.
No one deserves to settle.
Do you want this person? Or do you want what they're offering you? It's something we all need to realise and work out for ourselves. Unfortunately many of us decide this when it's too late. We all need to realise the signs from the beginning, and the only and obvious one, is how much we lust over them.
Only then can you work out whether you feel it's possible that a real relationship can grow from this.
Are you confused in your relationship? Or have an opinion on this? Or have something to say about anything in particular? Either comment below, comment on facebook or twitter (Links above)
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Only then can you work out whether you feel it's possible that a real relationship can grow from this.
Are you confused in your relationship? Or have an opinion on this? Or have something to say about anything in particular? Either comment below, comment on facebook or twitter (Links above)
Tweet at @Rebbie_shane
Or email me at Shaneyxcakes@gmail.com
Hope this helps guys!
Interesting post from someone so young but spot on. Too many people go for the safe option and then feel disappointed.
ReplyDeleteI've been like that many a time so have decided at present to try a very different relationship outside my normal parameters and it is already looking very promising.
How it turns out, I'm not sure, but we've both got high hopes for it.
Im glad things are starting to work out!
ReplyDeleteGlad you liked the blog, and thanks for your input :D. Always like hearing what you have to say :) x