I cheated and I don't know what to do

It's been a while since I did one of my advice blogs (Shame on all my friends who are reading this thinking I cheated :P)
But I got an email from a girl who had cheated on her boyfriend, and was a little confused about what it meant etc. Anyway, if you have any more advice to give her then comment below, Follow on Facebook or Twitter :)

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'Hi Rebbie,
I've been with my boyfriend for a few months now, and when we first got together I really liked him, and I still do... I just feel the spark has gone out of the relationship. I'm starting to wonder if I want to be with him anymore. I know he loves me and he is the best boyfriend I've ever had, but something isn't there...
A couple of weeks ago I went out with a few of my friends, and ended up taking someone else home. To be honest I don't exactly regret it, but It's made me wonder even more about whether I want to be with my boyfriend or not :/. If he found out what happened he'd be so upset :(. What should I do?'



Hey there random person with no name :P haha.

First of all, a lot of people do tend to feel that way after being in a relationship for a fair amount of time, as things tend to get more permanent and things are starting to seem like they're going to work out for the long run, it's natural for us to start thinking about 'Is this what I want to focus my life and time on?'
What are your feelings for the guy you cheated on your boyfriend with? Is he someone you know and like? Or was he just a one night stranger? If he was just a one night thing then I would suggest just trying to push it to the back of your mind and take some time out for yourself to figure out what you want from your relationship, because that's the important bit in that scenario.

But if it's someone you do like, you need to figure out if it's something that's likely to happen again, because if it is, it's going to be even more unfair on your partner to be sticking around in this relationship if you're playing away. If you feel like you should tell your boyfriend what happened, then tell him, but if it's going to be a 'more trouble than it's worth' situation, noone would blame you for just keeping quiet and forgetting the whole thing. Although if there's a chance someone saw you, don't be surprised if the gossip spreads, maybe you should also think about if it's worth getting the truth out there yourself before the gossip train does!

You never know, that night could of been the night someone realised how much they do want their relationship. Unfortunately I don't think this has happened to you :(. I think you probably do care about your boyfriend a hell of a lot, but you're not in a place to be in a long term or serious relationship. Either because that person isn't the one, or you just don't like being in a committed relationship. Maybe you need some time to yourself away from the pressures of relationships to see what you truly want :).

Hope this helps!