Do we need to have it all to be happy?

What does it take to make a person happy? Are we ever truly happy? One thing I have learnt over the past couple of years is that, there isn't one sole thing that can make any of us happy.

Money can't buy you happiness
A career doesn't give you emotional support
And love doesn't make you feel like you've accomplished anything.

If one of those three things are missing, we become unhappy. We either; Feel alone without love, Feel like we're wasting our lives or we're stressed and angry because we can't pay the bills. To be truly happy do we need to have it all?

A year ago I made the decision to end a relationship because drama connected to home and people around my partner were affecting my grades at university. (If my mum's reading this, she'll be well proud I picked uni over a boy!) But I often think about him, as well as an old friend who made the opposite decision a few months earlier than I made mine. And I wonder how her life is, and how happy she is. I really hope she is happy. But with every big decision you make, you always wonder, what if?

I now have my degree, but I'm living in a city where I have barely any friends, and I'm very much alone here. And as a lot of my friends back home know, I'm finding it rather difficult. So I often wonder if I had been happier making a different decision? My degree will never compensate from having the love of my friends and family around me, but I know if I had made a different decision, I would always regret not finishing my degree, and it would have been the biggest mistake I made.

So, do we really need to have everything to be happy? And sometimes, no matter what we do, can we just not win? Surely not everyone can have it all...

Advice Blog: Accepting It's over.

'Rebbie.

I just wondered if you had any advice for me..

I've been in a relationship with this guy, for about a year now, and I've just started at University. Before I left I kept hinting that the relationship wasn't going to work while I was at uni, and to be honest, I don't really want to be in a relationship when I've just moved away, and settling in. But he hasn't taken any of my hints, he's even talking about coming to visit me next month, when I've got all settled in.

I'm not quite sure what to do, or how to tell him. It's not because I want to go and sleep around, and/or find someone else.. I just don't want to be in a relationship now..'

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The first and only thing you need to do in this situation is just be honest with him, there's really nothing else you can do, stop dropping hints and just tell him straight how you feel. A lot of couples break up just before one, or both of them leave for university, especially when it becomes a long-distance relationship. And some try and figure out the long-distance isn't going to work for them.

Obviously, he's going to be hurt, and you're going to be as well, but at the end of the day if it's what you want, and you're not happy in this relationship then you have to bite the bullet and break it off before he makes any set plans to come and see you.

Hopefully it'll help and you'll find things easier, good luck!

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