Webcam performers and our relationships

It's been a while since I've posted one of my sex related blogs, and I've had a few messages requesting for their return... (you massive perverts! haha.)

So my topic today is all about webcam performers, and whether we should kick up a fuss over finding our partners viewing their material...

As with everything at the end of the day, it all comes down to a matter of opinion, and the truth is, a lot of women think that webcam performers are 'sluts' and 'cheap'. Where with guys, it's a middle split, a lot more males feel slightly more positive towards the idea of webcam performers, especially female and couple performers! ....This is probably because they're the main audience for these type of shows! Though society today is becoming a lot more open when it comes to sex and sexuality. So... Should we accept webcam performers, or not?

I've had this conversation with many people, both males and females and I get asked whether it's acceptable to watch webcam performers/go to strip clubs etc, when they're in a relationship and their partner's at home.

A lot of people make the mistake of putting webcam performers in the same league as other sex workers, such as escorts and prostitutes, as in thinking they're just as morally wrong. This is not the case in the slightest, obviously for the main reason of, there's an actual physical experience between someone and a escort/prostitute, and it's actually classed as cheating! =p.

If you caught your partner watching a webcam performer, would you be annoyed? Is there a reason to be annoyed?
I've been asked this question a lot, at the end of the day, it does come down to whether it upsets you or not. Personally, I may be a little wounded by it, but at the end of the day, it's just a fantasy. If your partner is sat at the computer wanking over some randomer on the internet, who he doesn't have a relationship with outside of that, are they really doing anything wrong? It's just like them masturbating over a celebrity....

Obviously except for the fact our partner's are paying for them....

A lot of the girls do it for an income, that isn't to say they don't enjoy it... who doesn't enjoy masturbating! But that girl isn't going to be in love with my partner, that girl isn't going to take my partner away from me. All she's going to get from my partner, is a few quid over a wank on webcam... None of us like to think of our partners getting off sexually over other people. But at the end of the day, they're sat at home jacking off, not cheating on you and sticking it in a prostitute...

In my opinion, what's wrong with a little fantasy? But everyone is different, some people would be upset by it, and one thing about being in a relationship is that you have to know each others limits, what lines you can cross etc, like you do with things like banter. It's the same with things like this, if you know your partner would be upset if they found you in that situation, then you should probably steer away from that situation out of respect for your partner.
If you're unsure about the situation, and are curious to your partners opinion, you can bring up the topic without giving the game away. Talk about a stag/hen party-->>Strippers -->> other forms of sexual entertainment, or if you're online, mention a pop up about webcamming, (there's bloody enough of them!).

Or, to avoid all the hassle, hide in your cave and fap to your hearts content... =P

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A little update on me.

I get asked a lot to do a blog every now and again about myself and to update people on what's going on in my life, with finishing University, I've not had a lot of time to put into my blogs and my posts. I know I keep saying I'll have time to dedicate to my blog, but this time, I actually really will. I'll make sure my new housemates will stop me from slacking!!

So.. I'm graduating university with a 2:2, which I'm pretty proud of, I could of done better, but... University life distracted me... ;) haha. I celebrated my 21st birthday on Thursday (June 27th). I went to New York with my Mum for the week and we had an amazing time. Look at this view, who wouldn't want to stand on the top of New York on their birthday? =D

The last few months have been a massive change for me, leaving the lovely town of Aberystwyth, and my amazing housemates, in our big party house! I love you all very dearly and I wish you guys all the best, and I will come and see you all regularly, I promise!! I'm moving towns, back to England! With my best friend of 9 years Kim, her boyfriend and my friend Joe! I'll let you know how I settle in when I go next week!
I'm shitting myself for graduation, I have no idea why, I don't like the idea of getting up on a stage (Yes, my degree was in Drama and Theatre haha). I'd just rather have it sent to me in the post, but mother wants to see me graduate, so I suppose I have to go! haha.

The question pretty much everyone has asked me, and it's the juicy one. My love life....

What love life? Haha. There is absolutely no male interest in my life right now, fuck boys, my job is listening to people bitching about their relationships, and you guys have put me off =P haha. I'm only teasing! I'm just really happy with my life, and exploring new things, trying to figure out exactly what I want to do with my life. I'm not actively looking for anyone, but you know, the flow can be good, so I'm just going with it.
A lot of you ask me, what kind of guys I go for, I've collected the questions, so I'm going to answer! :).

Question time!

Looks or personality?

To an extent, both. But I'm definitely more of a personality type of girl, (just look at some of my ex boyfriends, and you'll understand why!) Haha, but it's always a personality that hooks me.

Do you like guys with big muscles?

NOOOO! haha. A little bit of muscle is fine, actually, a little more than fine, but nothing is more unattractive to me than someone who's more muscle than anything else. It just doesn't work for me. The guys I think look best? The ones that have a little bit of muscle but have a squish! It makes it all the better to cuddle with.

Would you rather sit and eat junk or go out for run?

Come on guys! I'm 5'3" and a size UK 12/14, I love the food. I'm not the type of girl who checks her weight, eats nothing but salad and works out. I love a cosy night in, with a Domino's pizza. I have a nice big butt that's firm and made of pizza.

What's the most important trait to you in a partner?

Definitely a sense of humour, and a love for banter. I'm not overly harsh with my banter, but I couldn't have a relationship with someone who couldn't take it. It's my way of saying, 'Hey man, I kinda like you!'

What's the most important thing you look for in life?

Happiness. I don't really ask for anything more than to be happy. I don't need lots of money, and I am pretty ambitious, but having a successful career isn't the most important thing to me. All I want is to have my friends and loved ones around me, and just live life. As long as I can get by, and everyone around me is happy and safe. What more could you ask for?

Would you like to get married and have kids?

Both of them, the same answer, definitely. I love the idea of marriage and what it represents. I'm not looking to get married any time soon or to start popping out kids, but a while down the line, to be able to have that, I think would be really amazing. I am a very people orientated person, I cherish every single person in my life, I always have done, even if I don't always show it.

You seem like a girl who can get a little feisty.. are you?

Depends who you are and what you've done haha. I am a really passionate person so the feist is in there! I can be the most loving and caring, calm person you'll meet, but my tongue can get a little sharp if you've pissed me off. haha.

What kind of girlfriend are you like?

I think most people change with every relationship, we learn a lot of our flaws from relationships, and we pick up other peoples, and what not to do. Like most teenagers, when you like someone it's really intense, and you act like a loon. I know I did. But now, I'm actually on the whole, a really relaxed person in relationships. But like all girls, we get an insecure moment every now and again, I always keep mine to myself, but it still stresses me out here and there!

Do you have your eye on anyone now?

Nope, the odd celebrity crush, and the odd friend who I think is actually pretty good looking, but nothing further than that! :)

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