Hold your passions

High emotions are what gets our passion going, whether it's in lust, rage or something else. Lust and Rage are the two heightened emotions we go through, they can create massive wounds, but they can also heal them.

There's such a fine line between love and hate, we say we hate the people we love, we don't. We have a passion for them, the people we're in love with, can boil our blood to the maximum point. Why? Because they're the people who have the ability to hurt us the most. Our anger, is only us protecting ourselves from the possible hurt that can come from a situation.

But this anger, also does the most damage in a relationship.
We say and do things in the spur of the moment, out of this passion. But those things are usually the extreme acts that tear relationships apart. We end up with a lot of regrets in failed relationships, for exactly this reason.
We do horrible things, which in the moment, seem like the right thing to do, they seem like a way to hurt someone that's hurting us. But as we calm down, we realise the true effects of our actions.

We're all guilty of this, and most of us will know how much damage it can do to a relationship.
Passion and lust is a wonderful thing, but it's always very dangerous. Try not to act on your immediate emotions. You never know if the broken pieces are light enough to pick up!

Love.

As a lot of people who know me personally know, I've been going through a really dark patch in my life. But with all dark patches that we go through, they are very big learning curves, with the mistakes that we make, and the regrets that we hold. Through this, one of the biggest questions that I've been thinking about is, What is love?

If you were to ask me now, what I thought love was, I would reply with 'the thing that drives you to support and be there for a person no matter what happens.'
Which I think can be applied to any kind of love, but I won't go into them all.

Falling in love is probably the most complicated thing we'll ever do. If you're lucky enough to have a completely smooth relationship then, congratulations. But most will have a patch or two where things are rough and things are hard, and it can physically tear you apart. But if you come out of these hard times, to be able to look at the person, and feel completely fallen for them once again, and happy when you see them. You know you have a genuine love right there. Taking on the world together is the challenge.

And one of the hardest things that we have to accept is that sometimes that person that we have fallen so completely in love with, has moved on and doesn't feel the same.
People say that love is blind, and it is, but only partially. We see all the positive things in a person, and we try not to focus on the negative points, even though we can see them, it doesn't change the way we feel about them. To us, they're still just as perfect.

You can go through a lot with a person, and that situation can cause you be angry/distraught/desperate and those emotions can drive you to do the wrong things, things that can hurt the people you love, ruin your relationship. Yet sometimes that person can look at you, and see not the angry person, but the happier person they're so familiar with, the person that made their lives so happy, the person they could tell anything to, and spend every second with. But what's more extraordinary is that, we can look at that person, and the things they've done, and even if they've done the worst things to hurt us, we can understand the reasons why, and forgive them.

I'm not good at letting people in, and sharing how I feel. We can block people out to the point that we push them away. None of us want to be in a vulnerable position, and falling in love is one of the most vulnerable things we can do. So sometimes we hurt them by being cold, cutting them out of certain things. I know I've ended relationships I've been so happy in because I didn't want to be hurt.

We find it so hard to explain how we feel, and sometimes we just don't want to. My friends ask me how I feel all the time, but what can you say when you don't even know yourself?

No matter what you go through, love will drive your desire to support them, and have them there. But it's never always as easy as that.
Sometimes we can be too proud to let a love back in, if you've been hurt before by a person, and sworn before everyone you'd never give them another chance, made such a riot over how bad him/her are, you can stop yourself from giving love that second chance, and who knows then, what you're missing out on.
The love that means the most to us, is always the love that needs the most work to make it a happy relationship. People say love shouldn't be hard work, but love can be the thing that causes us the most pain, so of course, to heal, you need to work. But at the end of it all, you can be truly happy. You just have to ask yourself, if you're both serious about it, is that feeling they give you, worth it?

You can't have any kind of relationship without trust, but you can build one from desire, if you both want it enough, you can make anything happen. Never limit the chances you give love.