A lot of us have been in this situation before, whichever role we've played....
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Hey Rebbie-Shane!
Me and my best friend have been friends for as long as I can remember, and last year I started to see my now ex boyfriend. We had a really good relationship for the most part but unfortunately towards the end of the relationship he was cheating on me, as soon as I found out, i ended it. But I do still have feelings for him.
My best friend never is someone to be horrible towards anyone, so even though she wasn't happy with what my ex did to me, when he needed someone to talk to, she was there for him.
But now they're really really close, and I was scared that one day I'd find out they were seeing each other, or that they liked each other...
The other day, my friend asked me if I would be ok if they started seeing each other, and she said to me that she wouldn't date him if she knew it would upset me.. I said that it would, because... it would, but now I'm starting to feel a bit bad because I'm the reason they're not seeing each other.
I'm not quite sure what to do...
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Our friend's ex partners are usually a definite no-go area, but you do have to give your friend some credit for being honest with you, and talking to you about it. It obviously wasn't easy for you to hear but it won't of been easy for her to be honest about the situation.
At the end of the day, your friend has put you first, and if she's expressed that she doesn't want anything to happen with this guy because she's concerned for your feelings, then her priority in this situation is obviously her friendship with you.
Don't think of it as, you're the one stopping them from being together, she's obviously made that choice to put your feelings first, it's what friends do, and at the end of the day, I'm sure you'd do the same for her.
If you do feel bad, explain to her that you don't want to be the reason those two don't give things a go, but you appreciate the fact she has been honest with you, but don't forget to still be honest about how you feel about it. Don't go ignoring how you feel!
I'm going to assume that you'd rather not see your ex with your best friend though, it's very rare we're that nice! But even though she's crushing on your ex, you guys obviously have a good relationship if you can talk about this.
So tell her that, if you do feel bad, but it sounds to me like she's put her friendship with you first, because that's what she wants, rather than to risk that for a thing with your ex!
Hope it helps! :)
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Me and my best friend have been friends for as long as I can remember, and last year I started to see my now ex boyfriend. We had a really good relationship for the most part but unfortunately towards the end of the relationship he was cheating on me, as soon as I found out, i ended it. But I do still have feelings for him.
My best friend never is someone to be horrible towards anyone, so even though she wasn't happy with what my ex did to me, when he needed someone to talk to, she was there for him.
But now they're really really close, and I was scared that one day I'd find out they were seeing each other, or that they liked each other...
The other day, my friend asked me if I would be ok if they started seeing each other, and she said to me that she wouldn't date him if she knew it would upset me.. I said that it would, because... it would, but now I'm starting to feel a bit bad because I'm the reason they're not seeing each other.
I'm not quite sure what to do...
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Our friend's ex partners are usually a definite no-go area, but you do have to give your friend some credit for being honest with you, and talking to you about it. It obviously wasn't easy for you to hear but it won't of been easy for her to be honest about the situation.
At the end of the day, your friend has put you first, and if she's expressed that she doesn't want anything to happen with this guy because she's concerned for your feelings, then her priority in this situation is obviously her friendship with you.
Don't think of it as, you're the one stopping them from being together, she's obviously made that choice to put your feelings first, it's what friends do, and at the end of the day, I'm sure you'd do the same for her.
If you do feel bad, explain to her that you don't want to be the reason those two don't give things a go, but you appreciate the fact she has been honest with you, but don't forget to still be honest about how you feel about it. Don't go ignoring how you feel!
I'm going to assume that you'd rather not see your ex with your best friend though, it's very rare we're that nice! But even though she's crushing on your ex, you guys obviously have a good relationship if you can talk about this.
So tell her that, if you do feel bad, but it sounds to me like she's put her friendship with you first, because that's what she wants, rather than to risk that for a thing with your ex!
Hope it helps! :)
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Remember you can still email me at RebbieShaneOfficial@gmail.com, follow us on Twitter and Facebook
Hope you're still having a happy 2013!
