Advice Blog: Can I have a long distance relationship at 15?

I got asked a question the other day from a friend of mine, he's 15 and talking online to a girl over in the states. He spoke to me last week about his feelings for her and whether he could pursue a healthy relationship with her.

Being young, and going through your teenage years, it seems like everything to have a boyfriend/girlfriend and as nice as it might be, we do sometimes end up just running after every person who seems to be at least decent looking and giving us attention!

As much as I would have loved to back my friend up 100% in terms of his relationship with this girl, you have to be realistic in your relationships. If he was a few years older, working and could afford to go visit and have something more than an internet relationship, I would have been all for this. But at 15, you don't have the ways and the means to go and have a relationship with someone of that distance. He spoke to me about how soon he'll be working and able to save up, and personally I think it's great that he would take the relationship that seriously. But in this day and age, nothing is a given. It's not so easy now to get a job, and with flights etc costing around £500, you have to think for someone who's 16, is this a relationship they can really make work?

I don't even think I could maintain a healthy relationship with someone of that distance, being a grown up is so expensive!

As much as we would love to jump into a relationship and be able to say 'I have a girlfriend/boyfriend' at this age. We do need to remember to be sensible when it comes to committing ourselves to a relationship. And when we're so young, who wants to!

Enjoy being 15, trust me, it doesn't last forever!

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Gossip Gossip Gossip!

We have to admit, we do like a bit of gossip, if somethings going down, whoever we are, we do always find it interesting to know whats going on in peoples lives, whether it's a celebrity or a friend, even if it's someone we don't actually. Our social lives thrives on gossip and the lives of other people.

With social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter, we put so much of our lives out there, and yet we wonder how gossip goes around.
We throw everything on our profiles, the food we eat, our mood swings, and I am definitely one of those people, I like a good old stressy status. Facebook has become a way to vent, in result people see it, and will make assumptions of whats going on, and rumours, that spread like shit anyway, now spread even quicker.

People do say, people who concern themselves with other peoples lives and problems clearly don't have anything interesting going on in theirs, and in some cases that can be true, but I do also believe that sometimes we focus on other peoples gossips at times to escape from the negative things going on in our own lives.
Come on, admit it's nice to sometimes see how shitty life is going for someone we hate when we aren't too happy with our own lives? It makes you feel better right? Not that that's right, but... I won't deny it feels good sometimes!

A few of you asked for some of my tips to help prevent the spread of gossip, so here they are!

1) (and the most obvious!) Think about who you're telling your business too, everyone has a few friends that are complete gossips!

2) Avoid 'heat of the moment' Facebook status' and tweets etc, it gets people talking!

3) No matters what's going on behind closed doors, put on that poker face! Sometimes you don't need to say a word for people to know things are wrong!

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Soon my new advice blog will be uploaded for you to take a  gander at, aimed at my younger teenage audience!

Take care guys!
Rebbie. x