Advice Blog: Accepting It's over.

'Rebbie.

I just wondered if you had any advice for me..

I've been in a relationship with this guy, for about a year now, and I've just started at University. Before I left I kept hinting that the relationship wasn't going to work while I was at uni, and to be honest, I don't really want to be in a relationship when I've just moved away, and settling in. But he hasn't taken any of my hints, he's even talking about coming to visit me next month, when I've got all settled in.

I'm not quite sure what to do, or how to tell him. It's not because I want to go and sleep around, and/or find someone else.. I just don't want to be in a relationship now..'

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The first and only thing you need to do in this situation is just be honest with him, there's really nothing else you can do, stop dropping hints and just tell him straight how you feel. A lot of couples break up just before one, or both of them leave for university, especially when it becomes a long-distance relationship. And some try and figure out the long-distance isn't going to work for them.

Obviously, he's going to be hurt, and you're going to be as well, but at the end of the day if it's what you want, and you're not happy in this relationship then you have to bite the bullet and break it off before he makes any set plans to come and see you.

Hopefully it'll help and you'll find things easier, good luck!

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battles worth fighting?

Friends are there for us through thick and thin, but at times, can those friends be there for us too much? Sometimes we push our friends away just for being there, or 'not caring' and sometimes for caring too much. In reality it's mainly because our friends share a different view to us, and we don't like it. So we argue and push them away.
So what arguments are worth fighting, and which aren't? Sometimes being the best friend can ruin your relationship. If a friend wants to make a decision which you know as an outsider is a big mistake. You're best off not pushing it, especially when it involves something close to their heart. A partner, or family etc, because the chances are they aren't going to change their mind.

As a friend, we should always respect the decisions of other people, if it's what they want to do, even though you know it's wrong, sometimes the best thing we can do is sit back and watch them make their own mistakes so they can learn from them.
People say the best friends people can have are the ones who step in and no matter what, will always stop you from making the wrong decisions, and I personally believe that is true. But sometimes we can't learn lessons in life unless we've personally made the mistakes, or at least watched people around us making the same ones. Plus the factor of the person in questions personality.

If it's clear that that person isn't going to change their mind, the best thing you can do is just sit back and support them through the decision, no matter how hard it is to watch. Because at the end of the day, what are you going to achieve? Nothing, apart from the possibility of losing a friendship. Unfortunately it's a similar situation to one that I've been involved in this past year, and one of my friendships fell apart. If you try and stop someone from doing what they want to do, no matter how wrong or how stupid it is, they're going to lose respect for you, because you're being 'unsupportive.'

You just have to figure out if it's something where your opinion in their decision is one they're really going to listen to, because if they want to make that decision enough, they won't, and is it worth losing a friendship over?

Memory lane can be quite a funny place.

Who remembers late last year/early this year when I made profile up on dating and 'fuck buddy' sites to do a whole load of research into them and into dating and sex lives themselves.

I received an email earlier this week asking if I still used LocalSlags.com ... I'd never even heard that site before but I knew instantly where he'd got this from.

A lot of sites out there that are there solely for people who sign up and find a 'intimate friend' all share details with each other and share the profiles on their website. So if you sign up to one, you're signed up to them all. I've had enquiries asking why I'm on sexyGILF when I'm on 20 years of age, and some site to do with cougars....

Why don't I take these profiles down? Because I can't. The admins on the site always figured out that I was on there purely to play about and do research for my blog and always cut off my account. Yet, they kept my profile details on all the sites. This is to make men believe that there are plenty of girls out there on this website looking for a quick shag, long term fool-around-er. So they sign up to the site and pay the monthly fee. Now, they do in the small print say that they share their information with other site, but who actually reads the small print on a website? :P

What a lot of people don't realise is that the same profiles are on these weird and not so wonderful sites, so if they sign up to more than one of them, they're paying for the same thing, and that they don't realise is when they sign up to a new site, paying their monthly fee, they actually already have a profile on there...
Yet some people are lucky enough to find what they are looking for, and are happy. However most people unfortunately, get left with nothing and fair few pennies emptied out of their pocket.

As for me, I am doomed to be on the internet forever, a cougar, GILF and local slag. Wonderful!

Here is a photo of how pleased I am over this.... =P

The truth in drinks.

There are a lot of things we don't actually realise until 

we actually see it for ourselves. As you can see in the picture here, there is A LOT of sugar in soft drinks.
Considering this is a better option against 'diet' drinks. What can you do, to enjoy your favourite drinks yet not poison your body with sugar overloads and damaging chemicals such as Aspartame?
The truth is, you can't. Contrary to public belief the difference between 'zero' and 'diet' drinks is.... well, there isn't one really. Both contain aspartame instead of the vast amount of sugar, demonstrated in the photograph. To check out the minimal differences in the two drinks click the link Here.

So what alternatives are there out there? For all those lemonade lovers, there's a fantastic drink out there for you! Vitamin water: Lemonade. Unlike most lemon flavoured waters and juices, this product actually tastes just like lemonade... Even without the fizz, and even better, less than half the amount of sugar! However drink these in moderation, as they are part of the vitamin water franchise, they contain high amounts of essential vitamins, which is you intake too much of, too regularly could result some nasty chronic diseases! Stick to at least one a day, if you chose this water as a beverage! Check it out here

However, keep an eye on Fructose levels, Fructose is a simple sugar found in fruits, and have been believed for years that it is a better substitute to other sugars, a little bit of Fructose is good for you, however if you take in too much of it, can cause heart problems Fructose Facts.

The truth is most fruit, soft and flavoured drinks are artificial and contain an amount of dangerous sweeteners and other crap which is very bad for you! The best advice I can give to you is to drink things in moderation. If you are concerned about what you're taking in, stick to water, and cordial drinks.

What you drink can hold as many calories and have just as much of an effect on your health as foods do, and a lot of people don't realise this! So be careful about what you drink if you're health conscious!

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