We have to admit, we do like a bit of gossip, if somethings going down, whoever we are, we do always find it interesting to know whats going on in peoples lives, whether it's a celebrity or a friend, even if it's someone we don't actually. Our social lives thrives on gossip and the lives of other people.
With social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter, we put so much of our lives out there, and yet we wonder how gossip goes around.
We throw everything on our profiles, the food we eat, our mood swings, and I am definitely one of those people, I like a good old stressy status. Facebook has become a way to vent, in result people see it, and will make assumptions of whats going on, and rumours, that spread like shit anyway, now spread even quicker.
People do say, people who concern themselves with other peoples lives and problems clearly don't have anything interesting going on in theirs, and in some cases that can be true, but I do also believe that sometimes we focus on other peoples gossips at times to escape from the negative things going on in our own lives.
Come on, admit it's nice to sometimes see how shitty life is going for someone we hate when we aren't too happy with our own lives? It makes you feel better right? Not that that's right, but... I won't deny it feels good sometimes!
A few of you asked for some of my tips to help prevent the spread of gossip, so here they are!
1) (and the most obvious!) Think about who you're telling your business too, everyone has a few friends that are complete gossips!
2) Avoid 'heat of the moment' Facebook status' and tweets etc, it gets people talking!
3) No matters what's going on behind closed doors, put on that poker face! Sometimes you don't need to say a word for people to know things are wrong!
Remember you can email me! Facebook me! and follow me on Twitter! to put in suggestions for future (more in depth) posts and advice!
Soon my new advice blog will be uploaded for you to take a gander at, aimed at my younger teenage audience!
Take care guys!
Rebbie. x
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Wednesday, 7 November 2012
Tuesday, 6 December 2011
Online Bitching.
Everyone has a bit of a rant on facebook etc now a days. Every so often a fight will break out on a social networking site and everyone who knows them gets a look in.
A lot of people tend to slag it off, giving their reasons to why it's not appropriate, but is it really as bad as people make it out to be?
Everyone has human emotions, and at times because we're so full of them, we need to vent, let something off our chest, and Facebook and other social networking sites have become a place to do so. I'm not saying it's right, and it's certainly not the most mature thing to do, but I don't think it's a particularly horrific thing to do. It's just how things are now.
The most common response to anything that gets said online is, they're too scared to say it to someone's face. I don't really think that's the case at all. People vent things online, what they're feeling or thinking etc, and it's not because they're too scared to say to that person directly, I think it's mainly because doing so would cause more drama than it's worth. I personally don't say anything online that I wouldn't say to someone's face, but telling people directly every thought or feeling, really isn't appropriate.
I'm not saying it's the right thing to do, and I'm not encouraging people to start putting bitchy comments etc on facebook. But what I've come to see over the past two years is that, when someone does put a bitchy status or a comment the people that agree with the comment all like it and laugh along with what's been said, but then when the tables turn and what gets said is about them or their friends, it only then becomes immature and inappropriate. It's a 'you can give but can't take' situation.
Gossip runs riot around social groups now a days, and social networking sites have become a faster medium for gossip. In the heat of arguments people do come out and say things they don't mean or are a little extreme and they regret it, and it's the same with social networking sites, if someone's really pissed off or upset, they'll post a status or whatever saying the exact same thing, it's a source of venting how we feel. It isn't the best thing to do, but you have to admit it makes us feel better when we've said what we've had to say. I'd be massive hypocrite if I started judging the people who did this, because I'm certainly one of them. I just got to thinking why do we do it?
It's not the most appropriate thing to do no, but we all have feelings and we all have opinions and things we want to say, and with the internet being so accessible to us 24/7, it's just become a faster medium for saying 'what is on our mind'. How many people have seen the Facebook status box 'What's on your mind?' and just thought, well Facebook if you really want to know... or something to that extent? A lot of people I know have, and I've seen many status' which begin with that quote. Whether you say it on Facebook or to other people personally, it gets around a fair few people about what you've said etc. The only thing I don't agree with at all online is when people start naming and shaming people. I just personally feel that when you begin to name names, you are really just humiliating people.
So to really wrap up what I've said here, you can't really stop people from venting and expressing on social networking sites, because as I've said, everyone has done it. It's not a case of people are too scared to say to people's faces, it's just a case of doing so can cause more trouble than it's worth.
That's reason enough to say, well if you aren't going to say it to people's face, then don't say it at all, and I agree. But people always say things in the heat of the moment, no-one goes about life without saying anything inappropriate it's just human nature. Social networking can bring out the worst in people, and I don't think it's right, but it's something we all do, and it's just another medium for us to bitch etc on. I've just noticed that people are fine with it, and laugh along with it, until they're on the back end of it, and don't like what they see, because it's negative towards them.
I know everyone has different feelings on this, and I'd love to hear yours, either comment below or leave a message on my Facebook/Twitter (links above) or email me at Shaneyxcakes@gmail.com :)
A lot of people tend to slag it off, giving their reasons to why it's not appropriate, but is it really as bad as people make it out to be?
Everyone has human emotions, and at times because we're so full of them, we need to vent, let something off our chest, and Facebook and other social networking sites have become a place to do so. I'm not saying it's right, and it's certainly not the most mature thing to do, but I don't think it's a particularly horrific thing to do. It's just how things are now.
The most common response to anything that gets said online is, they're too scared to say it to someone's face. I don't really think that's the case at all. People vent things online, what they're feeling or thinking etc, and it's not because they're too scared to say to that person directly, I think it's mainly because doing so would cause more drama than it's worth. I personally don't say anything online that I wouldn't say to someone's face, but telling people directly every thought or feeling, really isn't appropriate.
I'm not saying it's the right thing to do, and I'm not encouraging people to start putting bitchy comments etc on facebook. But what I've come to see over the past two years is that, when someone does put a bitchy status or a comment the people that agree with the comment all like it and laugh along with what's been said, but then when the tables turn and what gets said is about them or their friends, it only then becomes immature and inappropriate. It's a 'you can give but can't take' situation.
Gossip runs riot around social groups now a days, and social networking sites have become a faster medium for gossip. In the heat of arguments people do come out and say things they don't mean or are a little extreme and they regret it, and it's the same with social networking sites, if someone's really pissed off or upset, they'll post a status or whatever saying the exact same thing, it's a source of venting how we feel. It isn't the best thing to do, but you have to admit it makes us feel better when we've said what we've had to say. I'd be massive hypocrite if I started judging the people who did this, because I'm certainly one of them. I just got to thinking why do we do it?
It's not the most appropriate thing to do no, but we all have feelings and we all have opinions and things we want to say, and with the internet being so accessible to us 24/7, it's just become a faster medium for saying 'what is on our mind'. How many people have seen the Facebook status box 'What's on your mind?' and just thought, well Facebook if you really want to know... or something to that extent? A lot of people I know have, and I've seen many status' which begin with that quote. Whether you say it on Facebook or to other people personally, it gets around a fair few people about what you've said etc. The only thing I don't agree with at all online is when people start naming and shaming people. I just personally feel that when you begin to name names, you are really just humiliating people.
So to really wrap up what I've said here, you can't really stop people from venting and expressing on social networking sites, because as I've said, everyone has done it. It's not a case of people are too scared to say to people's faces, it's just a case of doing so can cause more trouble than it's worth.
That's reason enough to say, well if you aren't going to say it to people's face, then don't say it at all, and I agree. But people always say things in the heat of the moment, no-one goes about life without saying anything inappropriate it's just human nature. Social networking can bring out the worst in people, and I don't think it's right, but it's something we all do, and it's just another medium for us to bitch etc on. I've just noticed that people are fine with it, and laugh along with it, until they're on the back end of it, and don't like what they see, because it's negative towards them.
I know everyone has different feelings on this, and I'd love to hear yours, either comment below or leave a message on my Facebook/Twitter (links above) or email me at Shaneyxcakes@gmail.com :)
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